Is Your Job Sucking You Dry?

Far too many good, talented people get stuck in jobs that for one reason or another have become unfulfilling, caustic, unhealthy and even dangerous to heart, soul and body. The causative aspects are too many to list in one place, but I’m betting that you know what they are. With rare exceptions, however, there are ways to change this, too. This discussion and resource, “Is Your Job Sucking You Dry,” address this situation head-on and offers some realistic approaches to making a change for the better.is your job sucking you dry?

The crush of being in the daily grind of an unhealthy workplace leaves people little time, if any at all, for introspection about how they got to such a cruddy place at work in the first place.  We blame management; we blame our lousy bosses, even some of our coworkers who seem to be “sticking-it” to us with every chance they get. We may be right in some of our assessments too, that unfortunately, this mindset only leads people to feel even more bitter and more resigned to remain in their present situation. It’s time for a different mindset!

Who Owns the Problem Here?

Sorry to say, but, you do. And with a different way of thinking and getting some support, movement that can eventually help you find better employment can come about. But first, taking a realistic and honest inventory of yourself is the first step.

Consider asking yourself and answering the following questions:

  • Do your workplace skills meet your present position? Are you, on average, over-qualified or under-qualified for the work you’re doing now?
  • Are there skill sets you could improve with more training or education that would help you if you stayed in your current position?
  • Do you want to continue in the same line of work if you sought new employment?
  • Have you reviewed your personal finances to determine what salary range you would need if you did change jobs?
  • Some people are in jobs that are so unhealthy, that they need to leave, period, and then look for new employment. Are you at that point? Can you afford financially to actually leave?
  • Have you assessed the reactions and hopeful support of your family members if you sought new employment? Have you discussed how you’re feeling with your partner/spouse and other family members?

Taking the time to honestly answer the questions above will help you to determine your baseline for change and what is possible to do.

Consider this: It helps to reframe how you think about needing to leave your current job. Instead of the daily “I hate this and that at work,” which are real feelings, try thinking of yourself as a person in transition…that you’re on a path to something better. Be careful and realistic about your timelines for change too. Don’t think in terms of weeks, but months until you find more suitable employment.

Seeking support:is your job sucking you dry

Confiding in specific coworkers about your job woes and your need to find new employment is a common and understandable occurrence. It can also be a mistake. Loyalties in the workplace are subject to change for many reasons so seeking support away from where you work is a safer way to go. Check out available employment resources at the bottom of this page.

First Steps to changing your employment:

If you have been in your current position for a very long time, making the decision to actually reply to a job posting can feel like you’re stepping off of a cliff. That’s okay. Do it. Just do one for starters. Then a week later keep looking and keep applying to other positions that match your present skills. Many people who know that they need a change of jobs apply to one position, and then when nothing comes of it, they stop looking entirely and instead fall prey to the negative messages and put-downs in their own heads. Try not to let that happen!

Employment counselors will usually recommend that you commit yourself to applying to two or three job postings at a time whenever possible. That way when one doesn’t work out, you still have something out there that just might pan out. Of course it’s difficult to be running off to two or three interviews a week if you’re still working in your present position, but keep your hat in the “job hunting ring” if possible.

It may be time to seek a new job if:

  • You feel intimated or unsafe at work
  • You detest your boss
  • You dread going to work every day
  • You often feel angry at work
  • All your friends know how much you hate your job
  • You’re bored stiff at work
  • You receive no new assignments and feel unchallenged
  • Being at work is making you sick
  • That you feel you’re stuck and can’t ever leave
  • You feel like running away and hiding under a rock!

Employment Resources

Employment and Training Administration (ETA): Is a huge Federal agency within the Department of Labor that offers trainings, courses, job interview tips, etc, and it’s all free!

Your state government: Many Federal employment programs are also provided through grants to state governments. Contact your state’s department of labor for programs that may be available in your area.

In addition, community colleges and universities in your area also offer valuable employment resources. So be sure to check these out too.

Wishing you the very best of luck with your job search!